Social media use in this 21st century, aside from the many benefits that we can all agree it offers, has become, without a doubt, the cause for most breakups. Due to the unimpeded accessibility it serves everyone, a lot of people end up abusing it.
Social media in recent times has also become an outlet for some couples to dish out every tiny detail that goes on in their relationship. We get the desire to brag about your partner, you’re in love and feel strongly about them that you probably want to share those feelings with the world.
As relationship experts and marriage therapists would say, even though that’s cute, it doesn’t prove the relationship is as perfect as it may appear. A healthy relationship is not all about posting mushy photos with hashtags #best thing that has happened to me #blessed #best boo in the world and so forth. The best relationship could be low-key with no posts online about everything that goes on in it.
While you might think it’s nothing and harmless, however, posting certain relationship matters online can lead to serious consequences.
Here are 5 things you should never post on social media about your relationship:
Don’t post your relationship issues online. If you get into a fight with your partner there’s no need to invite Instagram or Snapchat followers to the squabble. Strife and disputes happen in every relationship, so telling the world “your spouse looked at another girl and doesn’t appreciate what he has” as a status update is definitely not a need to know. There are some lines you cross that when you eventually come around to making up with your partner any chances of resolving the issue would have been dead.
Don’t post unflattering pictures
Some things are better left behind lose doors. No matter how much you love your body or your partner’s body – even though it looks like Jacob from Twilight movie, or she looks like la Dona from Iron Rose – Whatsapp story doesn’t need to capture it. Always keep those images to yourself. Your partner might consider it to be insensitive to display them, even more, embarrassed if others see sensitive images of you that are meant to be private.
Spare everyone the gory details of your breakup. No one really wants to know even the ones that will claim to be relationship advisors all of a sudden ready to give unsolicited counsel. When you and your partner call it off, you already have enough to deal with as your emotions are going to be jumbled for a while, do you really need to add to it by airing the specifics of the breakup to the public? Try as much as you can to keep it simple. If it’s over, it’s over. End on a decent note as once some things are done, there’s no putting that cat back in the bag.
Broadcasting every little detail
If your friends know that you couldn’t sleep at night because your spouse kept you up all night with her snore through your post, then you’re certainly oversharing about your relationship. Being happy and content with your partner means you don’t need the world to bear witness to it. Prefer to keep the little details to yourselves so as not to give away the specialness of your relationship. Posting intimate details of your relationship may just be an indication that something is lacking, and if that’s the case, you need to re-examine the relationship.
That “Can’t wait for you to get home tonight…” wall post could best be delivered as a text message because it’s personal. If you both share messages saying something nasty about each other, don’t be a snitch by putting it out there. This is because it’s not only wrong but rude and could hurt the longevity of your relationship.
Becky Onoise is a psychologist, chocolate junkie, and puppy lover. A writer who is sorry... not sorry about correcting your grammar. She's a word enthusiast and aims to achieve her goals. Instagram handle @mz_berkey